I’d argue that there’s a difference between “reframing” and “denial,” and that this macro captures the importance of that distinction.
A reframe for “I’m worried” can be as simple as “I feel worried right now because I don’t have a sense of control over a situation that really matters to me. I know that this feeling will pass and that it will probably happen again.”
Instead of not complaining at all, maybe something like, “I want to examine the source of my irritation when I feel calmer to decide whether it was a defensive response or if it is really important to address.” It can be worthwhile to reframe the urge to complain, but it depends entirely on the situation. Sometimes complaints are necessary for change to happen, and in those cases people who offer gratitude as an alternative to frustration often want stasis, power, or both.
I might counter the suggestion to “keep going” with the words of one Kenny Rogers: “You’ve got to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em, know when to walk away.” Persistence without purpose isn’t necessarily laudable. A reframe might just be a pause: “If can make it through the next five minutes, I can check in with myself again.”
The message on the macro could be paraphrased as, “Don’t stress, don’t whine, don’t rest!”
If you are experiencing a common response to a trying situation, STOP! Do something else instead.
That’s how you do healthy.
Ungood feelings are definitely not appropriate responses to inappropriate circumstances. Your feelings are wrong and they need to be corrected.
If you haven’t learned to eliminate your human stress response by praying, then you’re really just asking for an ulcer.
If you can’t solve a huge systemic problem by practicing individual gratitude, you’re really just an ungrateful leech.
If you haven’t managed to persevere in the face of overwhelming resistance, were you even really trying?
I just don’t know why so many anxious and depressed people miss these obvious solutions to simple problems.
Life is mysterious, I tell ya.
With respect to the image:
I don’t know that “Thank god I remembered to bring my big red umbrella today so I can finish this shitty winter beach walk” should really be the takeaway here, and yet it seems to be supported by the text.
It’s okay to give up on your walk that turned out to be windier than expected.